Dementia, The Donald, and My Dad

illustrations Alice in Wonderland and vintage brain

“But I don’t want to go among Mad People, Alice remarked.” Lewis Carroll Alice in Wonderland

For the past few months it has felt as though I had joined Alice falling through the rabbit hole.

Ever since late January, living in what seemed to be an alternative universe littered with alternative facts has taken its toll on me.

illustration of the brain

The mysteries of the mind

Observing a once upon a time authority figure spouting gibberish on a daily basis has been unsettling. Witnessing his unhinged outbursts,  poor reasoning peppered with paranoia  has been unnerving.

Watching  a man once entrusted with my care show alarmingly faulty judgement and poor concentration, while make baffling claims and incoherent ramblings has been nothing short of disconcerting.

Conversations chock full of confabulations, became the norm.

And with each passing week it had gotten progressively worse.

I watched over the past 4 months as a man’s mind seem to deteriorate on a daily basis.

That’s what dementia will do to you. The man was my father.

But coexisting in my personal pain was this parallel universe, that was inescapable. Nonsense spouted not just privately by my father in dementia but publicly  by our 45th president.

 Vintage Illustration Alice in Wonderland

“I don’t think…” then you shouldn’t talk, said the hatter.” Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland. Vintage Illustration Alice in Wonderland

Privately as I witnessed  my fathers once sharp mind  slip further into days filled with fantasy, fabrications and falsehoods I watched  our President do the same. Donald Trump’s lack of comprehension of facts was obvious, his speech unintelligible at times, a jumble of incomplete thoughts, childlike in scope.

Logic defying gibberish straight out of Alice in Wonderland.

It was all too familiar to me.

In Trump world like in the world of dementia, facts no longer mattered, truth doesn’t matter, language doesn’t matter.

Though my father has now sadly passed away, there is still no relief from this other madness…I still feel like I am falling down the rabbit hole.

Is Trump as crazy as the Mad Hatter or just crazy like a fox?







  1. Sally, I’m a long time reader of your column and I am just so sorry to hear this. You’ve shared so many stories about your family over the years and painted such a lovely picture. It’s a living tribute. I’m so sorry for your loss.

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    • Thank you so much Susie. It has been a difficult time and it has taken me away from much of my work. I appreciate your ongoing support, and if you haven’t read my last post it is a final tribute to my father who has been a subject of so many of my childhood stories which I will continue to share and look forward to doing so.

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